Despite having a plethora of qualifications in the conflict resolution field, I couldn’t stop the bickering or the mini cold wars in our daily lives. I was so sick of hitting a wall of resistance whenever I wanted something, I began passive-aggressive behaviour whereby I would just go ahead and do things my way. I didn’t bother to check in with my H as I guessed he wouldn’t agree and then I wouldn’t get what I wanted!

I may have done things my way and got the outcome I was chasing but along the way our intimacy suffered- we argued and we mostly ended up in another mini cold war. This was over seemingly small things like where to put a fence, put in some shade or cleaning the kitchen.

I am not proud of that behaviour however at the time I thought I couldn’t get what I wanted any other way.

While we didn’t ever have ‘knock down’ screaming matches, the effects of continual bickering and mini ‘cold wars’ really took its toll on our relationship-our PI had fallen off a cliff, he was spending longer days at work and when he did come home, he made straight for the remote.

I was exhausted, lonely and full of resentment. I thought it was all his fault as I had tried everything I knew to fix our relationship, but we always ended up in the same tired dance.

Like so many women I turned to the internet for an answer, for someone with a different voice and that’s when I found Laura Doyle’s six intimacy skills. The skills resonated so profoundly for me that within a week I had signed up for private coaching and for coach training.

Fast forward and I now have the marriage of my dreams, where I feel treasured and adored and a husband who can’t do enough for me. He is always looking for ways to make me happy- He buys my favourite food and wine, cooks for me, brings me tea in bed every morning, books tickets to concerts I want to go to, bought me a chainsaw, a beautiful ruby ring and the most glorious pink and purple bike with matching helmet !

He really does just want to make me happy.

Things are as good as I can stand and I want that for you to !

Practicing the skills and getting private coaching was magical for me.